Nothing can truly prepare a parent for losing their child. Babies are meant to signify the beginning of a life, not the end. It can be challenging to find hope or a sense of community during these times of grief.
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is observed annually on October 15th, with the whole month of October being dedicated to raising awareness of this cause.
If you or someone you know has been faced with pregnancy loss or infant loss, here are a few things to remember during this challenging time:
- Acknowledge your feelings. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and realize they’re normal and part of the process. Grief can often come in waves of different emotions when you lose someone. You may feel sad, angry, confused or alone. At times, these feelings may become completely overwhelming. Grief has no time limit, and everyone grieves differently.
- Seek support. Look to get support to help you through your loss. Talking about your baby and your feelings is an integral part of the healing process. Your partner or friends and family are all great resources to start. Your partner may be experiencing similar feelings and will be able to connect with you on a deeper level than most. Your healthcare provider, a social worker or a grief counselor are all professionals that can offer guidance and assistance in coping with your loss. Joining a support group to connect with others who have had similar experiences can help provide a sense of community and understanding during this time.
- Self-care. Take the time to care for yourself physically and mentally. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and peace. This could include spending time outside in nature, practicing relaxation techniques like meditation or seeking creative outlets. Find things to do either solo or with your partner that make you happy.
- Memorialize and honor your loss. Find meaningful ways to commemorate and honor the memory of your baby. You could create a memorial, plant a tree or even participate in events dedicated to pregnancy and infant loss remembrance if you’re feeling up to it. While these events can be daunting at first, it’s a great way to connect with a community who is going through the same thing as you.
If you’re looking for ways to support those around you who have been faced with pregnancy loss or infant loss, here are a few additional ways to help. Offer a helpful hand! Small tasks can seem very daunting during times of grief, so even something as simple as dropping off groceries can make a world of difference. Another way to help is by raising awareness on social media and interacting with organizations like March of Dimes. Although pregnancy and infant loss feels like something you may not be able to get over, with the love and support of those around you, the grief will continue to lessen over time.
If you or someone you know needs help during these difficult times, reach out to the
National Maternal Mental Health Hotline.
Call or Text 1-833-852-6262
In English and Spanish
24/7, Free, Confidential Hotline for Pregnant and New Moms. Interpreter Services are available in 60 languages. (US Only)
Additional resources can be found here.